Hello, my name is David and this is my new blog. I have been married for 25 years. My wife and I married when we were 18 years old so we had a lot of learning to do as we got older. Like any relationship, our marriage has had its ups and downs. However, last year, we had a real tough patch and I thought we might end up divorcing one another. Thankfully, this did not happen. The thing that saved our relationship was a recommendation by a friend that we sign up for counselling. The therapist helped my wife and I to truely understand the dynamics of our marriage and we have been much happier ever since.
Transitioning from being a couple to adding a baby to your home can be an exhilarating and exciting time. However, as with most things, there is another side to the coin as you will also experience exasperation, fatigue and coming to terms with your twosome being expanded into a threesome. For some couples, this transition can cause a rift in the marriage. If you do not have the right tools to keep your marriage on track, you may even find that you are contemplating breaking up. Luckily, relationship counselling can help you, and your spouse, come to terms with your new normal. Below are a couple of tips that you could use to get your marriage on track post-baby.
Delegate the household chores
Having domestic help when you get a new baby in your household can be quite helpful. However, not many couples can afford the extra pair of hands. As a result, you find that you have a drastic increase in the number of chores to carry out around the home. If the tasks are not delegated accordingly, you and your spouse could start bickering endlessly over tasks that you booth find loathsome.
Conversely, one spouse may feel that they are bearing the brunt of handling all the chores that need to be taken care of while the other spouse is free of any responsibility. If you find that you and your spouse are having trouble keeping up with the chores, it would be advisable to delegate them accordingly. This approach will ensure that everyone is accountable for what needs to be done around the home.
Decide on a parenting style
In recent years, there has been a surge of information on the different parenting styles that you could use to raise your newborn. What most new parents do not realise, though, is that parenting your child would be a process of trial and error. All babies are different, and therefore it would be up to the two of you to come up with a routine that would suit your family. For example, some parents may want to opt to have their baby cry it out when being sleep trained whereas their spouse may choose to co-sleep.
If you cannot decide on one particular approach, it is best to compromise and try both methods until you figure out what works best for the child. It is also not advisable to try to compare your parenting styles to that of your friends' in an attempt to push your agenda as it could cause you and your spouse to clash.
Share21 June 2017
